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Difficult Conversations Coming Up?

admin — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:58:59 +0000

I am feeling your pain…

Meetings with direct reports that are likely to raise controversy are one of the things any manager hates, right?

Well yes…if that’s what it looks like to you.

One of the biggest problems with anticipating problematic meetings…is anticipating problematic meetings…

Let me explain: Often when i work with a manager one on one and we roleplay a difficult conversation that they have coming up the fact that they expect difficulties translates into tension in their bodies, strain in their voices, a kind of forced stare in their eyes and a sort of fight or flight attitude that would make anyone have to react negatively.

In essence by anticipating difficulties in meetings…we create difficulties in meetings! (That’s the “law of attraction” gone wrong)

Instead do this:

1.Before the meeting focus on how you are going to make the meeting one that benefits your direct report.

2. Mentally rehearse doing a great job getting a positive outcome for both of you.

3. When in the meeting focus on managing your state. Your state is important. Because if you are stressed and expecting difficulties your direct report will be infected by it. So relax in the knowledge that you have done step 1 and 2 and help your direct report stay resourceful and open…by being resourceful and open yourself!

Good luck with your next former difficult conversation…

Stephan Erdman

If you want help from your “secret” Manager Coach…just send me an email detailing your challenge and I will do my best to help you.

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How do some people manage with conversations really well with older people?

admin — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 23:51:35 +0000

how do some people manage so well with their conversations like they don’t have to think at all?like for me I have many topics with people similar with my age group,but for talking with older adults,Im really bad at it and end up don’t know what to say cuz you cant swear or say anything disrespectful and I just end up not saying anything and feel so lame.Hoping to improve on this and become more successful so any answer is appreciated!

because you have to engage in meaningful conversation.

LOL just kidding, but if you have some humour, smarts, experience, and/or wisdom under your belt, then you can relate better to the people who likely have a few of these traits (older people). Personally, I love talking with older (not crazy…well maybe..) people, because they often have good advice/wisdom to share…and that can be a big help in life. Plus–it often lights up that smile of theirs to have someone listen

Business Coach?

admin — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 15:26:25 +0000

I am starting new business, need professional to monitor me, but I can’t pay much, any website or service?

I know of a leadership development company called Team. Their website is www.the-team.biz. You get CD’s every month and a book that teach success principles and lots of other great stuff. The people on these CD’s are very well informed and offer the best advice and coaching.